5 Ways to Tame Your Inner Bridezilla
Some say it’s the most important day of your life. You have been planning the fairytale wedding you have always dreamed of for months or even years. You’ve picked the right guy, you’ve set the date, and you’re now fully in wedding-planning mode.
With the big day fast approaching, you can feel the stress levels starting to rise and before you know it your friends, family and hubby to be all have a full-blown bridezilla on their hands. It’s a familiar story for many women, and it’s completely normal.
So, just how do you contain all of that pre-wedding stress and tame your inner bridezilla? Follow these five tips to help your wedding planning to go smoothly and keep those around you happy on the run up to your big day.
1. Understand That Some Pre-Wedding Stress Is Inevitable. Use It to Your Advantage!
Nearly every bride-to-be will experience some level of stress before their wedding. After all, you’re planning one of the biggest events of your life. It’s when that stress becomes uncontrollable that things can start to spiral out of control and affect the people around you in a negative way.
However, a certain amount of stress doesn’t have to be negative. Try focusing all of that stressful energy on doing things that are productive for your wedding planning, rather than worrying about things that aren’t. Then, learn how to ‘switch off’ when you have reached your limit and do something else to take your mind off everything for a while. Just because you’re getting married doesn’t mean that you don’t have hobbies and other things that you enjoy doing.
2. Time and Planning Are Your Friends
The more time that you have to plan your wedding, the better. It’s common sense, but it’s true. If you’re planning a ten thousand dollar wedding with 300 guests, there’s no point in setting the date just two months in advance. That’s just asking for unnecessary pressure and stress.
Instead, take a calm and realistic approach to your wedding and the amount of time that it will take to plan everything as perfectly as you would like it to be. Start by thinking about exactly what type of wedding that you want and write down the details. Then, think about how long it’s going to take to arrange each detail and use that to set a date with a realistic timescale. If you already know that your wedding is planned far enough in advance to get everything done in time, you can reduce your stress levels greatly.
3. Accept Help From Others
We all want our wedding to have a personal touch. Your wedding is your chance to not only spend the rest of your life with the man of your dreams but also to show the world something about yourself on a very personal level. For that reason, many brides insist on simply taking on far more of the wedding planning than they can comfortably handle.
Remember that your bridesmaids, family (and the groom, of course!) are there to help you. Letting go of some control and allowing them to assist with a few tasks won’t stop you from having a perfect day.
4. Don’t Ask People to Do Anything That You Wouldn’t
Do you find yourself asking your bridesmaids to go on a required diet, your maid of honor to change her speech or your mother-in-law-to-be to change her choice of outfit? If so, you are probably already in full bridezilla mode, and it’s time to stop – now. Ask yourself a simple question – Would I do this if someone else asked me? If the answer is no, then why are you making other people do it?
Sometimes it’s easy to become blinkered to other people’s feelings when all you want to do is plan the perfect wedding. However, it’s still no excuse to treat other people badly.
5. It’s Your Wedding – Stop Comparing It to Everyone Else’s!
One of the biggest causes of stress in brides-to-be is the fear of how they will look compared to other people. Many an attack of a bridezilla has been caused by ‘wedding envy’ – the fear that their wedding will become overshadowed by one of the other guest’s ‘bigger’ or more extravagant weddings.
If you find yourself becoming stressed about this, it’s important to have a reality check and remember that it’s your wedding and nobody else’s! If you and the groom are happy with it, and it’s your perfect day, who cares what anyone else thinks?